Ah, young love. The biggest anxiety for two kids getting together used to be missing phone calls. Then it shifted to agonizing over witty email repartee and text message reply rate. Now in today's world, modern love is even more arbitrary: a complex technological jungle of ephemeral photo messages, carefully curated dating profile selfies, and a hope and a prayer for a swipe to the right. But two star-crossed lovers are here to remind us all that, no matter the medium, romance definitely isn't dead. They are former iCarly star Jennette McCurdy and Detroit Piston center Andre Drummond.
In a delightfully charming op-ed in the Wall Street Journal, McCurdy defended her recent relationship with Drummond—one born out of Drummond repeatedly tweeting at her and proclaiming her his #WomanCrushWednesday on Instagram, until she took notice. After six weeks of tweeting, texting, and FaceTime'ing, the two upped the ante to an IRL meet up, and have been adorably spotted all over LA since.
But what starts off as a story defending the choice to date your stalker quickly turns into a very poignant take on the pressures of modern love. Says McCurdy:
...as his visit crept closer, I began to feel a little unnerved. What if my fears of the overhype of cyberspace played out in my life? [...] When you don’t have a million people telling you how cute your attempted date joke was like they tell you how cute your emoticon tweet exchange was, will any real spark exist? [...]
Also, what if the person I had built up in my head was different than the person I’d soon be sitting across from? What if technology aided and enhanced our conversations to the point where we felt crippled without it? What if two screens cannot properly replicate two humans after all?
Turns out, they can’t. Overall, the Andre Drummond I got to know in person is the same person he projects online, but it’s important to remember that the image displayed through a screen is in fact just that – a display. A person doesn’t converse in 140 characters, they don’t react in filters, and a well-played moment doesn’t loop itself every 6 seconds. We don’t live our life in glossy little quips, blips, and fragments, regardless of the fact that that’s what we’re encouraged to do in this day and age.
Emphasis mine. But fret not, the story has a happy ending—McCurdy goes on to point out that despite the charming long distance interactions they had, it was the fleeting moments she couldn't capture on her Vine that made her realize her tech love could translate into real life.
[Image by Sam Woolley, via Andre Drummond's Instagram]